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How to Follow Your Heart Instead of What Others Tell You to Do
I promise your voice is the one worth listening to at the end of the day.
It’s easy peasy lemon squeezey to let the world tell you who to become.
From what you wear and how you speak, to why you wake up in the morning and where you place your energy, people have a lot to say about how others are living their lives.
And when you take others’ unsolicited input and pair it with the innate desire to be accepted by people, it’s far too natural to fall in line with what everyone says you should do. In other words, the status quo.
Living a life in accordance with what other people want for you and from you is simple. It doesn’t take much energy to blend in and assimilate.
Marching to the beat of your own drum, however… Now that requires discipline.
My middle name is Kathleen, but for the first twenty-two years of my life, I would have more aptly been named Alayna Compliant Doyal because that’s all I knew how to be.
Compliant.
No matter the scenario nor the circumstances, I acquiesced as readily as the average, healthy, able-bodied adult breathes.
The majority of my compliant behavior stemmed from a place of trauma rooted in my childhood. I was…
